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DEAR CAROLYN: My girlfriend of two years could are in position to lose about 20 pounds, which may lead to increased energy, more confidence and more

attraction between us.

I suspect she'd have more energy Instant Slim Tengda Diet Pills and more confidence because I did after i lost about 60 pounds during the period of a few years. I'm guesstimating here,

however i think she could have stood to get rid of about 10 pounds whenever we started dating, but instead she's added 10.

I'm not sure how to overcome this since i don't want to sound shallow, but I'm also concerned for her health, and we're kind of at that point of determining

what's next for us (i.e., marriage). But I'm not sure I want to be married to a person who puts on Ten pounds every 2 yrs and then sits around on her iPhone

complaining her clothes make her look fat. Your thoughts?

-- Anonymous

DEAR ANONYMOUS: Ask yourself, please: If your girlfriend carried an extra 10 or perhaps 20 pounds and met you in the door dressed to bop and led you by the

wrist to some weeknight salsa-fest; or forwarded you emails she enrolled in with local shows or fairs or sporting events with a quick note, "Say the word,

and I'll buy us tickets"; or used her home time to experiment with recipes or refinish old furniture, or other things didn't involve rotting on a couch,

would we be having this (quasi-) conversation? Isn't the point where weight itself -- as opposed to behavior -- is seen as a problem, or even the better

measure of one's depth?

Your girlfriend of two years could stand to lose ... you give them a call "pounds," however i give them a call "the mind-blowingly life-squandering habits of

phone-staring and fat-whining."

I occur to believe it's sane, not shallow, that you should balk at marriage (!) with someone you apparently can't stand around you used to. I additionally

regard it as kind, not shallow, to let her understand what you're seeing: "I find it hard to believe you're happy this way, hanging out in your iPhone and

tearing yourself down. Are you?"

If she were 20 pounds lighter, hanging out on her iPhone complaining her clothes make her look fat, can you want to be married to that?

DEAR CAROLYN: Every year, my ex -- who left me without warning for an additional man -- contacts me one way or the other to wish me a happy birthday. It

always stuns me because we never communicate during the entire year, and she knows she's responsible for wrecking our relationship.

For years I've ignored her, hoping she'll Green Lean Body Capsule obtain the hint. No luck there. If silence isn't working and that i really do not wish to change my number or my

email address, what is the best yet tactful method to tell her to obtain lost -- and remain lost -- without having to open up old wounds, that are still

pretty raw?